On June 19, 2022, Mike Caples lost his battle to Alzheimer's Disease at the age of 67. Come share stories and remember the dynamic man that was Mike Caples. Attire is casual. Drinks and hors d'oeuvre will be served. In lieu of flowers, we are asking for donations to Alzheimer’s San Diego, at https://alzsandiego.app.neoncrm.com/mikecaplestribute

Mike's Celebration of Life

Jennifer Flaharty

Mike Caples

Amanda Fitzsimmons

Carol Fay

Crown Cremation Services - Milwaukie

Altogether<br/>4307 Vineland Road, Suite H-17-19, Orlando, FL 32811<br/>For more information, visit our website at <a href='www.altogetherfuneral.com'>www.altogetherfuneral.com</a><br/>Copyright © 2025 FPG Intermediate Holdco, LLC

Carol Jean (Schafer) Fay, age 97, passed away peacefully on July 4, 2022 at Graceful Living Adult Care Home in Happy Valley. She was born to Leo G. and Reona (Werkman) Schafer on Christmas Day, 1924, and thus was proud to be known as "The Christmas Carol". She lived with her parents and brother, Lee Schafer, in Crookston, Minnesota (100 miles from the Canadian border) until 1945. After graduating from Central High School, she attended secretarial school in Minneapolis. There she met and married Norman E. (Bud) Fay in 1949. They had two daughters, Cynthia Lee and Susan Carol, and lived in St. Louis Park, a suburb of Minneapolis. Carol was an outstanding homemaker, seamstress and cook - known for lemon and chocolate pies that melt in your mouth.

While her girls were young, she introduced them to activities involving art, music, theater and many outdoor activities. As a girl scout leader, she gathered, sorted and packed clothing to send to an orphanage in Korea, receiving a "Good Neighbor Award" from WCCO, a local radio station. She also participated in a University of Minnesota program to assist the wives of doctoral students from foreign countries. In opening her home, she formed close friendships with the exchange families, especially those from Korea, Japan and Taiwan, and kept in touch once the families returned to their home countries. Always an adventurous person, she learned to love sushi and kim chee (a strongly-scented, pickled Korean dish) - much to the dismay of her husband.

A recurrent theme throughout her life, Carol made new friends wherever she went, and maintained lasting relationships, hosting meals in her home, and being a faithful letter writer.

Once her girls were in school, Carol began a career as a travel agent - merging her great people skills with a love of travel. Her job provided the opportunity to visit many places, including the Caribbean, Europe, Hawaii (a favorite) and a trip to Asia to visit her many friends in Korea, Japan, Taiwan, and Hong Kong. Her agency specialized in trips to a small, out-of-the-way, Bavarian town, Ruhpolding. True to form, during one visit Carol met and befriended Inca and Bertl Manstedt-Waldhoff, who owned a pub called Bier Stahl. Her daughters, Cindy and Susan, returned to visit and stay with the couple the following summer.

Carol and Norman divorced in 1973, but remained close friends for the rest of their lives. In 1978, Carol began a new adventure at age 53, moving to Santa Barbara, California, where her youngest Susan lived with her future husband, Bill Johnson. She and Cindy drove out from Minneapolis with all Carol's belongings packed in Carol's convertible.

Carol loved her apartment overlooking the mountains on one side and ocean on the other. She found a job as a secretary with the Santa Barbara County Area Planning Counsel and became an active member of El Montecito Presbyterian Church, singing in the choir. She loved walks around Santa Barbara and on the beach, exploring tide pools and visits to nearby Solvang, a 'Danish village' on the other side of the mountains. She continued to entertain vivaciously and annually invited dozens of friends to enjoy her Department 56 Dickens Village and other Christmas decorations.

Carol was thrilled when Cindy moved to Santa Barbara from Minnesota, soon to be followed by Cindy's future husband, Tom Arnich. Eventually Norman also joined the family in Santa Barbara, purchasing a house with Cindy and Tom and their new little family, Chris and Kelly. At that time, Susan was in San Francisco, where Carol's beloved brother Lee Schafer lived and so Carol was able to visit both of them. Her mother, Reona, moved in with her in 1987 and the two moved into a two bedroom apartment which had a lovely porch that looked out over the town and the ocean. Inheriting her father, Leo's green thumb, Carol filled the porch with pots of flowers and excelled in growing orchids.

If something was going on in Santa Barbara, you can bet Carol was there celebrating with her many friends. Once again, Chez Carol was open for business and she and Reona often had guests for dinner or just coffee and dessert.

Carol retired in 1990, just after Norman's death. After her mother's death in 1996, she eventually followed Cindy and Tom to Portland, OR in 2003. Susan and Bill had moved to Bend, OR and thus the entire clan was close again. Carol took to Portland like a duck to water and loved her apartment in Lake Oswego. She continued to enjoy walks and gardening and throwing feasts for friends and family. She found a church family at Lake Grove Presbyterian Church. Carol moved to Carman Oaks Independent Living in 2011, close to her church and still close enough to Cindy and Tom and family to be picked up for Friday night family get-togethers. The whole gang would drive to Bend for holidays at Susan and Bill's house.

Carol had a fall in the winter of 2017 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Realizing she could no longer live on her own, she moved in with Susan and Bill to a home they had recently purchased in Happy Valley, east of Portland. She had her own little nest and Susan was thrilled to spend time with Mom. In 2019, Carol's condition caused her to move to Graceful Living, where her caregivers Dina, Raisa and Rebeka provided 3 years of loving care in a beautiful adult foster care facility. She passed away following a stroke on the fourth of July, a holiday she had always enjoyed celebrating.

Above all Carol loved her family, but her generous heart and outgoing personality touched many, many people. She embraced the concept of serendipity - Carol was always up for a new adventure. With her trademark red hair and engaging smile, she was the life of the party. She was known for so many wonderful attributes - a charming hostess, a loyal friend, someone you could call at the drop of a hat to go with you to an event and always up for a shopping trip. She was a loving daughter and a wonderful mother, grandmother and great-grandmother; always there for her family. We will miss her deeply, but will treasure the many memories we have and the gifts she gave each of us - allowing all that knew her to experience the world as a warm and beautiful place.

When words can't fully express what we want to say, sometimes a small gift can. Visit our Memorial Store for personalized gifts, keepsake jewelry and to plant a memorial tree.

We use cookies to improve your browsing experience and analyze site traffic.
<privacyLink>Privacy Policy</privacyLink>.

<firstParagraph>We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze how you use this website, store your preferences, and provide the content and advertisements that are relevant to you. These cookies will only be stored in your browser with your prior consent.</firstParagraph><secondParagraph>You can choose to enable or disable some or all of these cookies but disabling some of them may affect your browsing experience.</secondParagraph>

<firstParagraph>We use cookies to help you navigate efficiently and perform certain functions. You will find detailed information about all cookies under each consent category below.</firstParagraph><secondParagraph>The cookies that are categorized as 'Necessary' are stored on your browser as they are essential for enabling the basic functionalities of the site.</secondParagraph>

Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with customized advertisements based on the pages you visited previously and to analyze the effectiveness of the ad campaigns.

Analytics

Functional cookies help perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collecting feedback, and other third-party features.

Functional

Necessary cookies are required to enable the basic features of this site, such as providing secure log-in or adjusting your consent preferences. These cookies do not store any personally identifiable data.

Necessary

Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors.

Performance

Customize Cookie Preferences

Verification Successful!

New Message

The following files could not be uploaded

Ways you can honor {memorialName}'s memory:

Donation Link

Upcoming Event

Featured Mementos

Welcome Message

Select an item to highlight

Add a highlighted item

Customize which items you’d like to highlight on the memorial

Create Account

Become a Keeper

As a free {brandName} user, you will only be able to make 5 photos and videos public.

As a free {brandName} user, only the first five (5) Mementos are visible to page visitors. You can change which Mementos are public by dragging and dropping a photo or video to one of the first five positions. Upgrading to {brandName} Plus will make all 10 Mementos selected visible to the public.

All Mementos

This option is only available to Keeper Plus users.

To allow yourself and the rest of the community to view all images and videos, and to enable everyone to download their own copy of these mementos, upgrade your account to Keeper Plus.

This memento is not visible to visitors

Your community has posted {itemCount} more pictures and videos that honor {firstName}'s memory. To view them all, and to enable everyone to download their own copy of each, this account will need to upgrade to Keeper Plus.

View all images and videos with Keeper Plus

Our Obituary Assistant helps you craft a meaningful life story in minutes. Review and edit every detail, and unlock more features with Keeper Plus.

Obituary Assistant

Spend as much time as you need working on your Memorial page before it is visible to the public, and much more, when you upgrade to Keeper Plus.

Save Page as Draft

Create unlimited event pages and unlock a suite of powerful features to help you seamlessly coordinate event details, invites, and more when you upgrade to Keeper Plus.

Event

Create a full picture of your loved one’s community and add unlimited family and friends to Loved Ones when you upgrade to Keeper Plus.

Loved One

Create unlimited Memorials — and unlock unlimited images and videos, event pages, and advanced privacy settings — to help you keep memories alive when you upgrade to Keeper Plus.

Memorial Page

Add unlimited Stories to highlight the all the things that made your loved one unique, from milestones, images, albums, documents, locations, and much more.

Highlight Stories

Upgrading to Keeper Plus means you can add additional Keepers to help you gather Mementos and tributes, approve content, build out a family tree, and tell {firstName}' story on Keeper.

Invite Keepers with Keeper Plus

Upload and display unlimited photos and videos, use unlimited Story templates to highlight key moments, and allow friends and family to download their own copies when you upgrade to Keeper Plus. 

Better Mementos with Keeper Plus

To access memorial related configurations that control the display of the banner upgrade to Keeper Plus.

This configuration  is not available on your current plan

Create a meaningful link path to add a personal touch to {firstName}'s memorial.

Custom Memorial link

Gift Messages

SENDING AS A GIFT?

Cart

About 1-800 Flowers

"Flowers were beautiful and they arrived in time before the funeral. Thank you and will purchase more in the future.!"

Hearing Tears

"Beautiful flowers, I've always enjoyed sending them to my love ones for sympathy and they have always love them very much Thanks for making people feel good when receiving them."

Sympathy

"This was true to the photo and good to know family took arrangement after the service."

Beautiful arrangement.  Perfect size for service.

Some of the great things our customers say about us

We're here to make it a little easier, with thoughtful gifts for the services & home, along with expert advice on how to be there during a difficult time.

Flowers

Gift Baskets

Express Your Deepest Sympathy

About Us

Perfect Condolence Gift

No one is meant to grieve alone

Peace and love

Product is made, packaged, and sent with love

Keepsakes

How to add your gift message

Packaging Information

Shipping information

Add a Personalized Charm to the Ornament:

Other Keepsakes

Install KeeperQR onto any headstone, urn, or other memorial in minutes.

Install

Use your phone or tablet to scan the unique code — no other tools required!

Scan

All three of our elegant KeeperQR designs are printed using durable, weather-resistant aluminum designed for indoors and outdoor use on headstones and urns, memorial benches and trees, or other monuments to your loved one’s life

Built to Last

Get <discount>50% off</discount> Keeper Plus with your KeeperQR purchase

Keeper Basic

Learn About Our Plans

Connect the physical and digital worlds to share your loved one’s life story with friends and family, no matter where they are.

KeeperQR Memorial QR Code Plaques

Planting a memorial tree or bereavement tree is a unique, environmentally conscious way to pay tribute and honor the memory of your loved one. Keeper Memorials is supporting American Forests to plant whitebark pine trees as well as thornscrub trees in select regions of the US and Canada.

Memorial Trees

KeeperQR is designed to pair seamlessly with a Keeper digital memorial. Use our FREE intuitive tools to create biographies, maps, and timelines, share photos and videos, and more with customizable features built to commemorate your loved one’s life’s story.

Powered by Keeper

Lifetime without any hidden costs or subscription traps

One time payment

Keeper is SOC2 compliant, keeping your memories safe and secure.

Data protection guaranteed

We bring your QR Codes to any corner of the globe

Worldwide Shipping

Our durable and beautiful QR code plaques create seamless connection between your loved one’s physical memorial and their digital memorial, allowing visitors to their final resting place instant access to their life legacy.

Memorial.

Honor their memory, share their story

A KeeperQR is a weather-resistant plaque with a custom QR code that links directly to your loved one’s digital memorial. When placed on a headstone, urn, bench, or tree, it allows friends and family to scan and view their life story instantly

What is a KeeperQR?

They’re built to withstand outdoor elements and adhere to most surfaces.

Where can I place the KeeperQR?

How does it work?

Frequently asked questions

KeeperQR

E-Certificate Design

Plant Memorial Trees as a Living Tribute

BRAZIL

CANADA

FLORIDA

OREGON

Memorial Project Reach

Memorial trees start at {price} per tree, with discounts for multiple trees

Our Commitment

Gift Baskets & Food

Keeper Plus

QR Plaques

Keepers Featured Products

A Greener Way to Remember

Learn about our Partners:

Help Us Complete Your Order

Remembrance Store

Through your unique link, your client can sign up for Keeper and create a Memorial for a loved one. When the Memorial page is completed by the family, it will appear on your microsite and website. You will be the main Keeper Administrator of the Memorial, along with the family member that created the page.

Invite Your Clients to Create a Memorial

Invite Families

Your Email Notifications

Notifications

Email Unsubscribe Settings

Other Settings

With your active Keeper PLUS subscription, you get unlimited access to a suite of powerful features:

Allow visitors to download a local copy of all images and videos.

Download Media

Create a custom and meaningful URL, unique to your loved one, for each Memorial page.

Editable URL

Plan public or private events and invite your loved ones.

Event Pages

Add images and create profile pages to illustrate the history and genealogy of your loved one.

Family Tree

Invite unlimited administrators to help you manage every Memorial page you have.

Keeper Administrators

Visitors enjoy unrestricted access to all uploaded images and videos.

Unlimited Media

Create unlimited Memorial pages for your loved ones.

Memorial Pages

You will be able to upload Full HD videos instead of embedded links.

Video Uploading

Your Profile

Add a business user

Edit a business user

Are you sure you want to delete these users from these brands? You will need to manually add these users again.

If the user is a part of multiple brands, you will have to delete the user from each one individually

Delete Users from Brands?

Users Settings & Notifications

Users

Are you sure you want to delete these users? This action will revoke their privileges across all brands.

Are you sure you want to delete this user? This action will revoke their privileges across all brands.

Delete Users from all Brands?

Delete User from Brand?

Are you sure you want to delete {totalDeletes} from this user?

Delete Roles from this User?

Are you sure you want to delete this user from this brand? You will need to manually add this user again.

Delete User from this Brand?

Requires users to confirm their email every time they would like to share a tribute on a Memorial page.

When Email Tribute Validation is turned OFF, Guest users do not need to confirm their email address before their tribute is published.

When Email Tribute Validation is turned ON, Guest users will need to confirm their email address before their tribute is published. They will receive an email with a confirmation link they must click.

Requires users to confirm their email only the first time they would like to share a tribute on a Memorial page.

Email Tribute Validation

If Flagged Content is turned OFF, content that has been flagged will remain public until they have been Approved or Removed from the Requests Center.

If Flagged Content is turned ON, content that has been flagged will be hidden until they have been Approved or Removed from the Requests Center.

Hide Flagged Content

Language

Email Notifications

Are you sure you want to delete the Memorial for {name}? This action will permanently remove the memorial from the system.

Delete Memorial?

When Memorial Request Moderation is turned OFF, Memorials will automatically be published.

When Memorial Request Moderation is turned ON, Memorials will only be published if and when you approve them. Memorials can be published or deleted in the Requests center.

Memorial Request Moderation

Moderation Settings

This will permanently delete your account. The business account, and business page will not be deleted. To deactivate your account, there must be another admin user assigned to your organization.

Are you sure you want to deactivate this account?

When Override Tribute Moderation is turned OFF, the tribute moderation settings on Memorial pages will be hidden and other Keepers cannot override the tribute moderation settings specified by your organization.

When Override Tribute Moderation is turned ON, other Keepers can view and change the tribute moderation settings of the Memorial pages they manage. (Each Memorial page will default to the organization’s tribute moderation setting upon creation.) 

Override Tribute Moderation

If the AI Content Moderation is OFF, text areas containing profane language will be published.  Tributes can however be flagged and removed at any time.

If the AI Content Moderation is ON, text areas containing profane language will not be published and the user will receive an error message.

Carol Fay Obituary | Altogether